Feeling uncomfortable sucks. Kids birthdays are something that you need to attend, this weekend was one of them. I don’t mind attending functions as long as I feel comfortable being there. But, I despise going to parties where I don’t really know the people very well. Take yesterday’s birthday, the kids parents are school friends of my wife, but we only see them like 3 times a year if that. On top of that you get another 40 people I don’t know very well except I see them 3 times per year at this couples house for birthdays etc. I hate feeling awkward, it’s no one fault except my own I guess, ah ah. I’m kind of a shy guy (or just lazy to make the effort to talk to people I never see? ), in any case when I go to a party I hate being on my toes. I want to relax, but I don’t relax too easy when I need to think about every question, etc. Ha-ha, I think I worry about things way too much huh?
I try making small talk but, I hate it! How do I combat this I usually end up talking a bit here and there, then I just end up watching baby Matteo or making sure my daughter isn’t running up and down the stairs. It’s one of those type of social events I would rather not go to, the “I don’t really know these people to well functions”. I’m sure lots of people feel the same way.
I usually just end up talking about the same sh*t every year, real estate prices (going up or down), home renovations, World Cup (if that’s happening at the time), how fast the kids are growing and blah, blah, blah. I sure can’t talk about pay per click marketing or my Word press blog, everyone would think I’m some alien. Most guys at these parties just work a 9-5 job (nothing wrong with that), just something I’m not familiar with anymore. I sound like a snob huh? I guess it’s just easier to talk to people you have something in common with. Personally I like talking about real estate, positive thinking, making money etc. Maybe I’m the odd one, who knows or maybe I’m just a little whiner, lol.
I think one of my goals should be to try to work on this little “problem”. I write down financial goals, why not write down goals related to personal development? I have many years of birthday parties ahead so I think I need to work on my “small talk”. I mean I have to go to these functions anyways right? I might as well make the most of it.
That’s all to report for this morning, I had to get that off my chest. I feel much better now, thanks!
C.V.